I was running around yesterday and the day before to prepare for the burial and viewing of my aunt, Mama Nene's body.
Two days before:
* I cried so much when I saw my aunt at the operating table connected to the tubes, it just hit me so hard when I saw her, especially when I walk around the house ... so many things remind me of her, even when I touched her clothes and shoes, I felt like crying
* when my dad and I viewed her body, I looked over across the doorway, and the doctors were still working on another patient during surgery
The day before yesterday:
* went to work but I could not stand it, I had to leave
* picked up Mama Nene's clothes at the hospital
* talked to anethesialigist about what happened during the operating table, I didn't realize that my aunt had so many complications, anneroisms in her arm, infected arm with two big bulging bumps and it was bleeding, coronary heart disease, (detected a year ago but considered minor), they had to litigate her arm, then litigate her chest, and then ligitage her arm, my aunt was loosing lots of blood, so they did blood transfusion which might of increased her potassium level, her potassium level before the surgery was 5.2, when the doctor was done repairing my aunt's lower left arm, they started loosing her, they tried CPR for an hour to try to revive her, they said that they revived her once and then lost her again, we thought it was routine arm surgery, since she had two arm surgeries in the past, the doctor put a priority (Dr. Syderac was worried that she might bleeed death, the medical term might be called exanguanation) on my aunt's surgery that the hosptial delayed two scheduled surgeries
* my dad and I went to the mortuary to pick out coffin and to discuss viewing and burial options
Yesterday:
* made so many phone calls regarding church, pictures, flowers, clothing, agenda, rosary, obituary, reception
** I am so happy that a lot of people have special parts in organizing and planning the viewing and burial
* my cousin Mary and I picked out my aunt's burial dress at a bridal shop and all the rest of her clothing, we had a hard time finding the blue sash to tie around her waist to symbolize Virgin Mary, since my family is so Catholic
* Manang Mary and I made selection of the flowers
* my cousin Kito will be preparing prayers to follow "Pray for us"
* my cousin Boni wrote the obituary
* my cousin Mary is doing the program/agenda (memorial folder) and rosary flyer, she was so efficient in deciding the clothes and flowers
* my cousin Lindsay is arranging the burial reception
* my cousins and I will gather photos to scan and print to frame and do a collage
* my dad and I went back to the mortuary so that my dad can sign the release form to transfer my aunt's body from the hospital to the morge, we picked St. Theresa for prayer card because my aunt will like the cross, we picked the catholic book for guests to sign in
* my auntie Lilia organizing the choir and priest for the rosary at night
* I was so relieved to hear that by law in the bay area if a person dies at an operating table, the coronary will investigate with in 15 hours, since we didn't hear from the coronary, we will assume that there was no wrong doing for the surgery, the doctor of anethesia said that they tried their best, she said it was a heroic effort
Early morning:
* I need to make more phone calls regarding church, cemetary, pictures, obituary, reception food, and miscellaneous calls